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We Hate Black Women: Understanding the Vitriol Attacks When Black Women Err According to Black Respectability Politics and Norms

February 16, 2020
40 Lessons in 40 Years, Black Womanhood, Uncategorized
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We hate Black women. We, as in all of us, hate Black women. Our first inclination is not to love them. We have to be intentional about learning how to do that. Some of us have been. Some of us…

Because I’m Black and Woman and a Writer First…

February 15, 2020
40 Lessons in 40 Years, Black Womanhood, Uncategorized
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Black Girls, How in de hayell are we supposed to work,build a business,pursue dreams,clean the house,cook,order food,meal plan,count calories,fold laundry,put them shits away, hire somebody,fire somebody, exercise,eat right,be thin, be thick, have thighs that save lives,shake ass, have one, but…

Complex Kobe: Wrestling With the Life and Death of Kobe Bryant

The complex, layered, public life of Kobe Bryant and his still surreal and untimely death has vexed most of us. I'm still not ok. Many of us still aren't ok.

Kobe Bryant is Gone, but His Legacy and Lessons Live On: 40 Lessons in 40 Years Series

January 27, 2020
40 Lessons in 40 Years, Parenthood, Uncategorized
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...we have been humbled and reminded yet again of the fragility and sacredness of life. We know once we enter this world, we begin our journey towards leaving it.

Nannies Ain’t Loyal: Four Decades of Life Lessons Part I

January 9, 2020
Black Womanhood, Parenthood, Uncategorized
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So, 2020 came with the recollection of lessons. It made me grateful and pushed me to record and share some lessons that have carried me in my almost four decades. The first came to me through my nanny. May she be well.

A Love Letter in Four Parts: An Open Letter to My Daughter

December 15, 2019
Black Love, Black Womanhood, Motherhood, Parenthood, Raising Imhotep, Uncategorized
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I used to call you, very briefly, my "mini me." But, you taught me, very quickly, that there's nothing small about your spirit.

The Movie “Harriet”: Facts & Fiction

Last night, I went to see "Harriet." I didn't go alone. I bought a row in a theater and filled it with mostly Black women and a few Black men; descendants of Harriet. I sat amongst a throng of other Black women in a sold- out theater, all waiting to see the legend we've heard griots SPEAK of all our lives; waiting to see a reflection of the best of who we desire to be. Brazen. Courageous. Audacious. Harriet.

Homecoming Manifestation Monday

To witness a microcosm of all that we are in a Black Excellence overload all weekend was healing in itself. I'm so proud to know, truly know the power we possess to manifest any and everything we desire in our lives. Black Girls and women are every wonderful thing! I love you all and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Day 1 With the Beast Maker

Today was Day 1 with my new personal trainer, and I barely made it.

Imperfect 10: Baby Let’s Cruise

September 11, 2019
Black Love
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I had a vision. I wanted to bring ten married couples who have been married for a decade or more together on a retreat to intentionally focus on our relationships. The purpose was for each couple to leave the retreat stronger in their marriages and with the knowledge that they now have a support circle specifically for the health of their marriage.